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Mistress Lucy does Mexico City: Feb 4-8th, 2016 | All Asian FemDom Party in LA: Feb 10th, 2016

  • 01/21/2016

Happy 2016, My dirty dears!
I hope this new year finds you well and that you’re chomping at the bit to push past old limits…I know I am. And what better way to broaden one’s horizons than with some long-anticipated international travel? I’m thrilled to announce that, I’ll be traveling to Mexico City and taking sessions between February 4-8th. This will be My very first trip to MEX and I am looking forward to exploring everything the city has to offer. I’ve dubbed this year The Year of Pleasure so I fully expect to make it live up to its name in every way.

I have quite a busy itinerary while I’m in Mexico City, so if you hope to catch Me while I’m in town, it bodes well for you to get in touch well in advance. Though I’ll have exclusive access to a luxurious fully-equipped dungeon space, there also happens to be several art fairs that coincide with My visit, which would make a perfect backdrop for one of My favorite activities: public humiliation :)

As usual, My calendar fills up fast so if I were you, I’d get the ball rolling today

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DOMINATE YOURSELF: A Manifesto for Submission in celebration of Mistress Lucy’s birthday

  • 12/17/2015

With the calendar year coming to an end, and My birthday on the 21st planted firmly in the midst of the holiday season–which to be realistic, Dommes us all when it comes to social obligations–December has always been a complex month for Me. Juggling My own penchant for flamboyant birthday celebrations with the collective impulse to reenact more traditional orthodoxies, it can be a time fraught with ambivalence and inundation when it comes to reflecting on and wrapping up a year of one’s life.

That’s why this year, dear sluts, I’ve decided to round out My year by writing a Manifesto for Submission. This declarative text is one that is close to My heart–laying out the many reasons why submission, and the surrender it entails, is crucial for living a more lucid and self-actualized life.  This is an important topic so it’s a longer read than usual, but I hope you can buckle down and take from this nugget of wisdom what you will…and that you demonstrate your understanding of it by exercising your submission and treating your Mistress to something very nice for Her birthday ;) 


DOMINATE YOURSELF

A MANIFESTO FOR SUBMISSION

I. Introduction

Do you suffer from feelings of restlessness, dissatisfaction, anxiety, and inferiority? Of course you do! We all have things about ourselves that we would like to change–thoughts, fears, and anxieties we’d rather avoid or pretend like don’t exist. Yet day after day, we go on denying and downplaying our personal weaknesses, hiding from one another the fact that–on some level–we all feel like worthless maggots slithering around in our own goo.

So why don’t we simply make the changes in ourselves that we can so clearly identify? Popular wisdom credits a lack of willpower, resolution, or constitution for the inertia that prevents one from embodying their ideal self. This type of “common sense” logic is as ubiquitous as it is false, acting as a red herring when in fact, the opposite is true: it is actually the inability to submit that holds each of us back from reaching our true potential.

II. The Fiction

Whether you are a Freudian who divides the psyche into id/ego/superego, or a religious type who posits that our “soul” is engaged in a cosmic tug-o-war between good and evil, there is a common sentiment that the human subject is not in agreement with itself. Far from homogeneous, each individual houses an ecosystem–a diverse bio-environment where organs, bacteria, parasites, and viruses are held together in space by the fleshy skin sack that delineates our body.

And yet even with the messiness of this material reality upon us, we still speak of the self as a single entity, driven by a clearly defined force. Self-control, self-discipline, self-possession, single-mindedness…the language we use betrays the collective fiction that currently defines modern life.

We’ve been told over and over that in order to be competitive one must man up, grow a pair, have some balls, don’t be a pussy, act like a man…really? Can you think of anything more vulnerable, or more delicate than balls hanging defenselessly in a sack, unprotected and open to the world? Yet, this is the common language used to denote strength and dominance.

Meanwhile, the pussy, which is capable of taking poundings without repercussion, regularly bleeding for days on end, and literally gives new life to humanity is used as a negativism synonymous with weakness and cowardice. Do you sense an inherent contradiction here?

III. Time to wake up

What are folks talking about? Why all this emphasis on self-dominance and not self-submission? Could it be the same reason that we use the weakest part of humanity as a metaphor for strength?

While language can help us perform the mental gymnastics necessary to invert reality–I, for one, have had enough. I’m sick of seeing people around me miserably toe the line in their personal lives, relationships, and careers—playing it safe out of fear that someone will discover the deviant inside, who will then inevitably expose their carefully curated life as a sham, a failed pantomime of normalcy. I say fuck that old hat…because it’s never too early to hit rock bottom. It can only be too late.

In fact, coming to terms with the worst you have to offer is perhaps the best thing you can do. So stick your dick in that hat and start humping. Understand that your weakness is the part of you that is most real. Dreams and aspirations are like vapor, whimsical fantasies that anyone can conjure–but the shameful repressed parts are what constitute your personal landfill. This is what makes up your foundation here’s where we look into the void that you’ve built your entire life around. Now that’s real.

IV. Sit in your Shit

You led yourself here, and now you must surrender to forces greater than yourself in order to eat your way out of the subterranean mess you made. Make no mistake, what I’m talking about is submission. Willfully relinquish your power and know that it is only through the acceptance and adoption of physical and psychological submission to another that you have any real chance of ultimately submitting to yourself. So isn’t it about time to dissolve your ego and embrace what you dread most? 

Humiliation, degradation, objectification: the more extreme one’s devotion to selflessly serve the desires of another, the more actively one endeavors to transcend the fiction of self that is presented daily, the more one stands to gain from this experience. It is only when one is able to remove one’s own self-imposed limitations that one’s true potential can be revealed. There is no dominance without submission so if you wish to truly master yourself, you must become practiced in the art of surrendering yourself.

This art may not be for everyone. Standing naked and vulnerable in the face of total obliteration takes no small amount of courage. But if you can humbly accept your seat in the shit and stand to be deconstructed–crumbled into a million little pieces under your own lens–I promise, you will transcend insecurities and internalize reality’s inherent contradictions, coming out the other side stronger than you ever imagined.

V. Conclusion

No matter who you are or what you do, you can unleash the power of submission that is already latent inside you.

Give up control, give up hope, and give up judgement. Start your training today to (i) honestly acknowledge your actual makeup (no matter how perverse the fear-driven world might say it is), (ii) lovingly accept your personal garbage heap by wallowing in your worthlessness, (iii) and tap into the regenerative power of submission as a renewable source of strength. Empty your mind, stop asking questions and shed the ego–start your slow crawl to success right this moment and grow a pair…then let Me tie them up in a pretty pink bow and bust them to My hearts content.

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THE EASTERN EMPIRE | Exclusive All-Asian FemDom play party | August 21, 2015

  • 08/07/2015

Hello, dear followers.

I’m newly back from Chicago and excited to share with you a long-awaited party that is just on the horizon. After months of brainstorming and organizing, I’m thrilled to say that The Decameron co-hosting Our first-ever ALL ASIAN Multi-Mistress FemDom Party with the infamous Chi Sisters in the freshly re-built Chi Temple in Downtown LA!

If you know Me, you know that I love playing with friends, so I am eagerly awaiting this day of full Asian Female Supremacy with six of My closest. In THE EASTEN EMPIRE, lowly males will be made familiar with their new station in life: under the boots of fierce, feminine Eastern Beauties. While we may seduce you with our bewitching gaze and smooth skin, make no mistake that you’ll be watching your preconceptions of the submissive Asian Female crumble in front of your very eyes as We hijack your will and destroy your ego…

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This is an exclusive invite-only play party featuring some of the finest Dominas in Southern California. If you think you are worthy of our time, you may see who is attending and apply for an invitation here.

For those who are lucky enough to have served Me in the past, you may contact Me directly to request an invitation. Space is very limited so don’t delay as this rare opportunity to serve your Eastern Goddesses all under one roof will sell out.

Good luck and hope you make the cut!

MPIL5212

Me & Attending Mistress AnLi at the 2015 DecameronLA Spank n’ Shine station.

Mistress Lucy returns to Chicago | July 30 – Aug 4, 2015

  • 07/14/2015

Hello Midwest!

I’m happy to be announcing that I will be back in Chicago between July 30th-August 4th. Like My summer trip to the Windy City last year, I will again be basing Myself in the Loop and playing out of Chicago Dungeon Rental’s West Loop location. Newly redesigned and immaculately maintained, this completely private loft-style play space is truly a pleasure to play in, so I encourage you to seize this opportunity to serve Me in style when I am in town.

Though I am widely known for My command of full toilet training and other forms of edge play, I will be adding a cherry on top for this particular trip. I’m excited to announce that My trusty bull will be traveling with Me to Chicago, so this is a rare opportunity to not only worship Me, but to experience the ultimate tease & denial of a cuckolding sceneWhether in public or private, there is nothing more erotic to Me than sneaking peeks at  a desperate sub languishing with unfulfilled desire while I’m having the time of My life with a superior male specimen

This will be a business trip mixed with pleasure, so you can be sure that My time is incredibly valuable while I’m in town.  So boys, if you are serious about submitting to Me, you should be able and willing to plan ahead and get in touch with Me before My arrival date.

Hope to torture you soon under the gorgeous Illinois skies!

xo,
L

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Mistress Lucy does San Francisco | June 23-28, 2015

  • 06/18/2015

Hi sluts :)
With the days getting as long as they are, I’m happy to announce My little summer half-birthday jaunt to San Francisco is just around the corner! Bay Area slaves may be glad to know that I’ll be in town and taking sessions in the city between June 23-28th.  This will be my first trip to San Francisco and I will be playing out of  Morgana Maye’s La Maison, a decadent and expansive playspace near the Castro district. For those of you who have been there before, you’ll know that it’s an extremely private playspace, since we will have the entire house all to ourselves during our time together.


Since I’ve gotten so many requests from you SF boys inquiring about the joys of full toilet training, I have a special 2-course Dinner & Domination that I would love to indulge in on this trip up North.  

  • Course #1: This is a social hour dinner in which you take Me out and wine and dine Me, filling My belly with the best of foods and the finest libations. If we’ve not played before, this shared meal makes for a perfect opportunity to get to know one another on a deeper level which prepares us well for our second course…
  • Course #2: We meet at our agreed upon playspace the morning after our delicious dinner together. This time, we are meeting for breakfast and I FEED YOU.  As I transfer this meal from belly to belly, we get to once again enjoy the delicious meal we shared last night. Talk about coming full circle :) 

Interested in throwing your hat in the ring? I suggest you get in contact with Me ASAP so we can exchange ideas and compare schedules. I hope you NorCal subs will not miss this opportunity to serve Me while I’m in town, since I will be taking limited sessions on this trip…

If the above description of My two-course fantasy for this trip isn’t enough motivation, (check your pulse!) I’ll be generous enough to leave you with a new photo and an open-letter-cum-review freshly penned by My loyal little whatever…Hope to see you up north!

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Whatever writes:

I have never felt compelled to write a review before, since I had always believed that what transpired in a session between a Domme and sub was private–part of a personal intimacy reflecting the tenor of a particular relationship. Moreover, since these relationships are fluid, with the best being mutually beneficial, there never seemed to be a compelling rationale to share the experience with a broader audience.
Yet, today I have decided to publicly thank Mistress Lucy Khan for the gift of her time and interest. I feel compelled to shine a spotlight on this psychologically-focused and emotionally-empathetic artist. Imposingly imaginative and intellectually creative, She has instigated a fundamental questioning of belief in my own perceptions about what is and is not possible. She has provided the rarest of gifts–insight–and I am profoundly appreciative.
For those of you graced with the opportunity to share time with this one-of-a-kind Domme, understand you should not bring a “drive thru” mentality.  I know we all have different interests and even though Mistress Lucy is skilled in virtually all aspects of BDSM, Her real differentiated skill is based on her uncanny ability to match your personality and proclivities with the perfect scenario to maximize the impact of time spent together. No matter how open to new experiences you believe you are, or how extreme your fantasies, She will leave you unmoored, questioning everything except your presence before her. It is absolutely primeval.
 She will understand your chemistry and make-up just as she has mine and when you acquiesce, you will see her eyes smile, reflecting the deep connection she has established…possibly followed by her sharing a “good boy”…and you will be happier than you could have ever imagined. Know with certainty your particular interests notwithstanding, Mistress Lucy will guide you in discovering others you did not realize you had–encouraging you to explore the hidden paths that please Her. In my case, She has inflicted escalating corporeal punishment with a psychological twist, instituted a fashion makeover, used me as an object of public humiliation, a human toilet, and a prop for role play scenes…none which were ever contemplated by me before training with her. She will crash you thru barriers and limitations and boundaries like they were tissue paper.
 Even after leaving the dungeon, I would find myself trembling throughout the day when recalling my efforts to entertain her. It is unnerving how she has initiated a re-definition of how I see myself. She sees clearly who I am and what I should become….and as I gradually reduce my reluctance to take this journey, She makes certain it all seems so right and simple. Her guidance and encouragement has result in a level of engagement I would have never imagined possible. It is total immersion…characterized by subjugation, acquiesce and finally a quiet, almost peaceful transcendental state.
Her physical beauty, intellect, sensuality and creativity will leave you breathless and spent, transfixed, gasping for air and yet–always wanting more. I cannot recall ever being part of a more emotionally and psychologically intense experience. If you’re anything like me, there is simply no way you can possibly ignore the opportunity to serve her…

Mistress Lucy’s Complete Male Makeover Project

  • 05/31/2015

With all the redecorating of My space this year, the urge to update and renew doesn’t seem to end with architecture. Lately, I’ve been very much into giving willing and worthy subs total-package makeovers. From outfit selection to haircut, eyewear, and body hair grooming, I’ve got opinions on how the gentleman should present himself for a Woman’s aesthetic pleasure.

I see too many of you poor things walking around with the same haircut that Mom gave you literally decades ago–as if this is an appropriate way to present yourself to your Boss! And if caring about your appearance doesn’t sound like “you”, then “you” don’t sound very considerate…this process is an opportunity not only to update your appearance, but to change your perception of and relationship to yourself. After all, the more self-esteem you have to surrender, the more satisfying your submission is to Me…

Come join Me in 2015, won't you?

Come join Me in 2015, won’t you?

If you’re ready to learn how to present yourself for the pleasure of the Me and the other Women in your life, I invite you to let Me lead you into the 21st century. Taking place in public, our makeover session dynamic can range from nurturing to humiliating, and can stand-alone or be incorporated as part of a more intensive male re-training program. Ironing out budget and details in preliminary communications, we would then spend a half-day together, remaking you in My image.

To celebrate our remodeling job, we can arrange to cap off our time together with a social hour and/or session. As a versatile and diligent Dominant, I enjoy bringing My submissives through the entire cycle of power exchange–putting My little Ken doll to good use after dressing him up to My liking!

Perfect as part of an extended, overnight, or multi-day training session, My fashion rehab, aesthetic overhaul is for the discerning submissive who recognizes the transformative power of a Woman’s touch. Life is too short to stand still; submit yourself to My discerning eye and become a living, breathing extension of My will…